How are you communicating your priorities and workload to others? (1-21-26)

Happy Wednesday,

Last week was asked ourselves the challenging question, “How broken am I willing to be to achieve my goals?” This week I want us to explore a question that should help us avoid being broken, and that question is, “How am I communicating my priorities and workload to others?”

I like my boss. He’s a cool dude and pretty smart. However, he can’t read minds. #bebetter Since I know he can’t read minds, this shapes how I talk to him about priorities and workload. Here was our conversation last week as we discussed goals for the year. I started by explaining the major workstreams and the ones I felt would provide the most value. I explained that in our current state I couldn’t do all of them justice. My boss asked me what my top 3 were. I explained, “Project A and B provide the most value and will take the most effort for X, Y, and Z reasons. I need high quality deliverables for A and B. That basically eats up my Q1. I won’t be able to do Project C justice unless I give up sleep and run myself into the ground, or I get some help. Help looks like this…” My boss tells me he agrees with my rankings and that if we can’t get help in that way we will have to push C until later in the year. We established priorities, trade-offs, and now I have the air support to not burn myself out. It was a 5 minute convo, but all we needed to ensure alignment.

Let’s connect dots. As good as my boss is, I can’t expect him to know everything on my plate. #slacker I can’t expect him to understand how long and how much effort everything takes. If my boss would play in radioactive waste, he might develop mind reading powers, but since that likely won’t happen I need to verbalize these things to him. Once I talk about these things, we can shift into problem solving mode where we can make actual trade-offs where we focus on some things and let others go.

Gut check. How often do you give an HONEST assessment of your workload and capacity? For many years in my career I just sucked it up and ran myself into the ground. I was scared to ask for help. I was scared to say that I had too much. I paid the price for this with my health, and it’s not a price I want to pay anytime soon. We can only address a problem if we know it exists.

The challenge: How will you communicate your priorities and workload to others?

Bonus for the leaders: Are you creating the environment to have these conversations? If your people come to you and discuss legitimate constraints and your default response as a leader is “Just figure it out” you’re likely doing more harm than you realize. I hope as leaders we are creating the environment to have these conversations where we can acknowledge legitimate barriers AND be problem solvers.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

How broken am I willing to be to achieve my goals? (1-14-26)

Last week we kicked off a series about questions to ask ourselves as we start the year. Our first question was “What one word/phrase will be our north star?” The question this week might be a bit intense and provocative. The intent is to help us think about protecting our mental health by asking this challenging question, “How broken am I willing to be to achieve my goals?”

Over the past few years, I have watched as more individuals have struggled with mental health challenges than ever before. I’ve seen more people go on leave from work because of stress and its negative impact. I’ve heard more people talk about how they were exhausted, beat down, limping, and feeling overall broken. I have also been that person. Last year was the first year in a long time that I didn’t feel I went past the breaking point. I think part of this is because I began the year by asking myself, “How broken am I willing to be to achieve my goals?” and forcing myself to contend with this answer.

How does this apply to work? While the question is admittedly intense, asking how broken I was willing to be was a wake-up call that forced me to contend with the impact of feeling broken and how that affects my role as a husband, dad, friend, and human. While I had allowed myself to go past the breaking point in the past, I realized it wasn’t worth it. If this meant not doing everything or missing out on something, so be it. I would rather be whole and be better for myself and family than be the super stressed hurting version of myself. As a result, I didn’t work myself into the ground. I was more intentional about where I put my energy. I made trade-offs and said no to things. This also led to conversations with my boss where I had to say, “I can’t do X, Y, and Z without sacrificing my heath and family, and I don’t want to do that. Can we align that X and Y are the most important and I can let Z go?” Here’s the other thing that happened, since I said no to other things, I was able to dedicate time and do X and Y extremely well, and in the grand scheme of things that’s what truly mattered. Overall, I managed to have a solid year, deliver a lot of value, and I did this while being whole. I wish this for all of us.

The challenge: We are still early in the year, before you get lost in the shuffle, I’d encourage you to ask yourself, “How broken am I willing to be to achieve my goals?”

Bonus thought/challenge for leaders- I firmly believe that leaders have a responsibility for protecting the health of their teams. The choices we make as leaders can enable people to be healthier versions of themselves OR bury them in impossible work and standards that have detrimental effects. With that in mind, here is the difficult question I’d pose to anyone leading people, “How far are you willing to break people to achieve your goals and/or the team’s goals?”

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Leadership and Outside vs Inside Temperature (7-29-25)

Last week was about patching holes vs installing a new HVAC system. This week is about leadership and the temperature outside vs creating the temperature inside.

The first day that our air conditioning stopped working, the temperature only went up a couple of degrees. It wasn’t too bad. Then, as the temperature shot up outside, the temperature inside kept getting hotter and hotter. Throughout this, we tried to do the same things around the house we would normally do like clean, cook, etc. However, we struggled as the environment around us became hotter and we became more tired and irritable. Once the new AC unit was installed it took time, but eventually the inside of the house became cooler even though the outside was hot as ever. Once things were cooler, it was just a bit easier to do all our normal things around the house.

You might be wondering where this is going. Air conditioning does not stop heat. Instead, it creates a space where it’s just a little bit cooler. That cooler space is more manageable, a little more comfortable. It makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do. Similarly, good leaders don’t stop the heat. Good leaders don’t have the ability to wave a magical wand and remove all environmental obstacles, internal hurdles, etc. Good leaders do create a space that is a little more comfortable. It’s a space that makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do. Maybe they do this by bringing clarity to the situation. Maybe they do this by bringing in compassion. Maybe they do this by making clear trade-offs. If you’re lucky your leader does all these and more. The bottom line is that the best leaders create the spaces where it’s a bit easier to have success.

The challenge: As a leader, how are you creating a “cool” space for people to flourish?

Bonus observation: I see a fair amount of people getting burnt out from always being in the heat. It’s easy to say it’s their fault, because they didn’t prioritize their work, they didn’t make trade-off decisions, they didn’t handle the stress well, etc. I understand there is some accountability on the individual. I would also argue that this is actually more reflective of a leadership failure within the organization/system. If the leader is clear on the vision and makes clear trade-offs concerning what will and won’t be worked on by their team, then this creates a “cooler” environment where it is easier for employees to stay focused on the right things. It’s easier for employees to focus on the value add work and not burn out. If the leader doesn’t make these calls, then they are letting all the heat in from outside, which contributes a lot to stress, burnout, and more.

Positive real world example. I went to my boss a couple of weeks ago and talked about how I was drowning in work, and how I wanted to make sure he and I were aligned on what matters most. His response was, “What are the 3 most important things you need to execute to provide value to the organization?” I told him, and we aligned on those 3 things. Most importantly, he acknowledged the trade-offs. I’d go all in on those 3 things and we’d be okay if everything else was either slow and/or did not get done. Included in the “don’t worry about it pile” were the emails and asks he had sent me about things not related to those 3 key focus areas. When he aligned on the trade-offs, he stuck by that even when some of his requests were now going to be ignored 😉 That’s what prioritization and making trade-offs looks like. That 5 minute conversation and alignment quickly made the temperature cooler. It made it easier for me to focus and do the things I needed to do.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry