Building Houses and Pacing vs Pushing Yourself (10-1-25)

This wasn’t the blog I intended to write this week, but I was driving into work on Tuesday and the universe told me this is the story that needs told.  This week is about building houses and the balance between pushing and pacing yourself.

Pretend for a minute that you build houses.  You’ve been building a house since January 1st.  It’s a large and difficult job, and you’ve been grinding day in and day out.  So far, you’ve made good progress.  Now you find out there will need to be some last-minute changes on top of the unfinished work you already have.  You know you should pace yourself, but there is so much stuff to do that you begin overly pushing yourself.  You are working hard and working long hours.  You get tired.  Your work gets a little sloppy.  At one point you’re so tired that as you are hammering nails you hit your hand and break all the bones in it.  You get the house done before the end of the year, but it’s not exactly your best work, you have broken bones, and you are spending the end of the year hoping you can heal a bit before starting the process all over again.

Let’s make some connections.  We may not be building houses, but I think it’s safe to say that we all have been running hard this year.  It’s been another year of high expectations and doing more with less.  I’ve seen all of us work and push and work and push to deliver for the people we serve.  With all that said, we are now kicking off Q4, and that is always a mad dash to the end of the year.  In the midst of this mad dash, I want us to finish strong, not broken.  I want us to finish the year and be ready for rest, not needing to heal whether that is physically or mentally.  What we build matters, AND the people who do the building matter too.

The challenge: How can ensure you are pacing yourself vs pushing yourself to the point where it becomes hazardous to your health?

Bonus challenge: If you are a leader, how are you setting up the environment so your people can deliver without harming themselves?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Blog #650- Central Air, Systems, and Being a Leader/Technician (8-6-25)

This is going to be the final entry in the series about replacing my air conditioning.  Last week we explored how leaders can create a cooler and more comfortable environment.  This week I want to dive deeper into this idea by exploring central air conditioning as an integrated system and being a leader/technician.

When my air conditioning was broken, my thermostat still worked.  We could set it to the desired temperature.  However, some parts of the integrated system didn’t work.  It was pushing air around, but unable to cool the air.  As a result, even if we had the temperature set where we wanted it to be, the system was unable to deliver those results.  The technician knew the thermostat was fine, and also knew the only way to achieve the desired result would be to upgrade the parts and system. 

What does this have to do with work?  A thermostat is a lot like a vision.  The thermostat/vision can be set clearly and correctly.  However, the vision doesn’t matter if we haven’t set up the pieces and processes in a way that enables us to achieve that vision.  Have you ever encountered a situation where a vision couldn’t be achieved in the current system?  Maybe, you were asked to move faster, but our internal processes were not set up to enable speed and there were not the right tools to be more efficient.  Maybe you were asked to be bold and take on more risks, but the processes and governance around you didn’t empower you to make decisions.  The system must be designed to support the vision.

With this in mind, great leaders aren’t just people who set the thermostat.  Great leaders aren’t just people who create successful environments with words.  Great leaders are the technicians who ensure the other pieces and processes will lead to achieving the vision.  Great leaders are the ones who say, “We want to move faster, well X is getting in the way.  X either needs to be removed or replaced by something that gives us speed.  Let’s take Y process and totally reimagine it to fit our needs vs the way we’ve always done things.” 

The challenge: Will you be a leader who just sets the thermostat (vision) or will you be the leader/technician who builds a system that leads to success?

Bonus:  This is blog #650.  Thanks so much for reading and encouraging me throughout the years to keep writing.  I appreciate you all being part of this journey!  If you have any favorite blogs or topics, I’d love to hear about them.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Leadership and Outside vs Inside Temperature (7-29-25)

Last week was about patching holes vs installing a new HVAC system.  This week is about leadership and the temperature outside vs creating the temperature inside.

The first day that our air conditioning stopped working, the temperature only went up a couple of degrees.  It wasn’t too bad.  Then, as the temperature shot up outside, the temperature inside kept getting hotter and hotter.  Throughout this, we tried to do the same things around the house we would normally do like clean, cook, etc.  However, we struggled as the environment around us became hotter and we became more tired and irritable.  Once the new AC unit was installed it took time, but eventually the inside of the house became cooler even though the outside was hot as ever.  Once things were cooler, it was just a bit easier to do all our normal things around the house.

You might be wondering where this is going.  Air conditioning does not stop heat.  Instead, it creates a space where it’s just a little bit cooler.  That cooler space is more manageable, a little more comfortable.  It makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Similarly, good leaders don’t stop the heat.  Good leaders don’t have the ability to wave a magical wand and remove all environmental obstacles, internal hurdles, etc.  Good leaders do create a space that is a little more comfortable.  It’s a space that makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Maybe they do this by bringing clarity to the situation.  Maybe they do this by bringing in compassion.  Maybe they do this by making clear trade-offs.  If you’re lucky your leader does all these and more.  The bottom line is that the best leaders create the spaces where it’s a bit easier to have success.

The challenge: As a leader, how are you creating a “cool” space for people to flourish?

Bonus observation: I see a fair amount of people getting burnt out from always being in the heat.  It’s easy to say it’s their fault, because they didn’t prioritize their work, they didn’t make trade-off decisions, they didn’t handle the stress well, etc.  I understand there is some accountability on the individual.  I would also argue that this is actually more reflective of a leadership failure within the organization/system.  If the leader is clear on the vision and makes clear trade-offs concerning what will and won’t be worked on by their team, then this creates a “cooler” environment where it is easier for employees to stay focused on the right things.  It’s easier for employees to focus on the value add work and not burn out.  If the leader doesn’t make these calls, then they are letting all the heat in from outside, which contributes a lot to stress, burnout, and more.

Positive real world example. I went to my boss a couple of weeks ago and talked about how I was drowning in work, and how I wanted to make sure he and I were aligned on what matters most.  His response was, “What are the 3 most important things you need to execute to provide value to the organization?”  I told him, and we aligned on those 3 things.  Most importantly, he acknowledged the trade-offs.  I’d go all in on those 3 things and we’d be okay if everything else was either slow and/or did not get done.  Included in the “don’t worry about it pile” were the emails and asks he had sent me about things not related to those 3 key focus areas.  When he aligned on the trade-offs, he stuck by that even when some of his requests were now going to be ignored 😉  That’s what prioritization and making trade-offs looks like.  That 5 minute conversation and alignment quickly made the temperature cooler.  It made it easier for me to focus and do the things I needed to do.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

A Finished Garden and What it Took to Get There (5-21-25)

This week we are going to start a series inspired by some work we’ve done around the house.  We will start by reflecting on a finished garden and what it took to get there.

The picture on the right is how our garden in the backyard looks.  My wife did all of this.  Isn’t she awesome?  There are walking paths, mosaic stones, flores, a rainbow fence, and other vegetables.  Hanging out on my back patio and looking at this makes me so happy.

Here’s the thing though.  It didn’t start out looking like that.  Now look at the other picture.  It started with just a bunch of dirt.  To get it to where it is now my wife had to put in a lot of work.  She sketched out designs for the garden, purchased the materials, and pulled it all together.  It took weeks of working to get to the end result.

Let’s connect dots. Every day we see images of the final beautiful product.  It’s easy to become obsessed with this finished product and to lose perspective on everything it took to get there.  That success didn’t happen overnight.  It was months and years of hard work. 

The challenge: How can we appreciate the beauty AND the work it took to get there?

Bonus thought- We can be beautiful AND be works in progress at the same time.  Life is just a series of transitions.  Much like the plants in my wife’s garden, sometimes we are blooming and sometimes we are growing and working our way through the dirt.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Impostor Syndrome and Your Unique Genius (10-23-24)

Last week was about impostor syndrome and the unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves.  This week is about impostor syndrome and embracing your own unique genius.

I’m working with an amazing group of individuals right now.  These people are absolutely brilliant in their field.  They’ve worked with all kinds of amazing companies and people.  If I’m being 100% honest, I often feel self-conscious and dumb around them.  It’s nothing they’ve done.  Impostor Syndrome whispers, “Did you hear all their accolades?  They have done work with heads of huge companies.  You’re kind of chump change.  You’re not smart like them.  You’re not in their league.” 

Over time, something interesting started happening.  This group of amazing people started telling me how much they value my input.  At first, I was confused by this.  I’m not in their league, so how am I valuable?  I then begin to appreciate that I have context, insight, and skillsets they might not have.  I’m not smart in THEIR way.  I’m smart in MY OWN WAY.  It just so happens that my unique genius has a synergistic effect that enables them to get even more out of their strengths. 

Let’s make some connection.  Have you ever been in a group of brilliant people and felt dumb or out of place?  Has Impostor Syndrome ever told you that you don’t belong, and that you aren’t in their league?  Per my story above, you know I’ve been there.  My most important learning is I didn’t need to be smart or talented like them.  I just needed to be smart and talented like me.  We each have our own UNIQUE genius.  We each have something special about us that inherently makes us valuable and worthy.  Often, it’s the ability to combine the unique geniuses of multiple people that truly creates something magical.

The challenge: Will you embrace your own unique genius to combat impostor syndrome?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Patios and Unplugging from Work (6-5-24)

This is the last in our series about patio furniture.  This week will be about patios and unplugging from work.

Now that we have some comfy patio furniture and have created a better space, I’ve more or less made it a habit to spend a decent amount on my back patio every night.  Sometimes, I sit back there and hang out with my family.  We talk and catch up on the day together.  Sometimes,  I sit out there and read a book.  Sometimes, I sit out there and just zone out, checking out the flowers, birds, and bunnies hopping along throughout the neighborhood.  After a long day of handling work and family commitments, it’s nice to take a few moments to unplug and recenter.

What does this have to do with anything?  Often when we talk about unplugging from work, we talk about unplugging over the weekend or during a long vacation.  This implies that throughout the week we remain plugged into work.  I know I’ve fallen into this cycle of feeling tethered to work all throughout the week and the pressure of always feeling on.  Have you?  I know that when I go through periods where I stay plugged into work around the clock I begin to burnout, which has a negative impact on all aspects of my life.

While it might not be as long as a weekend or as big of an adventure as vacation, I’ve found that my daily time hanging out on my patio has been incredibly valuable.  Not only is it nice to unplug in the moment to enjoy time with family or appreciate the beauty around me, but it also has positive effects that last beyond that time on the patio.  When I disconnect on a regular basis, even if it’s just for a few minutes, I feel more centered and capable of taking on what life throws my way.  These little moments of unplugging are incredibly powerful, and I think we can all find moments like these in our daily life whether it’s chilling on a patio or engaging in another activity that makes you feel whole.

The challenge: How can you unplug and recenter on a more regular basis?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Lies of P, Poison Levels, and Stress (3-20-24)

Last week was about blaming the controller vs taking accountability.  This week is about Lies of P, poison levels, and stress.

My kids were watching me play, and they noticed that I started losing health.  They were confused, and they asked me why I was losing health even when the monsters weren’t hitting me.  I explained to them that the area I was in was full of poison (called Corruption in the game).  At first, the poison doesn’t do anything.  It just slowly builds up.  However, once it hits a critical limit, the poison begins damaging my character, and my health quickly fades.  In order to survive, I needed to equip poison resistant armor, use items that reduce poison, and find safe places where there wasn’t poison.

What does this have to do with anything?  Instead of it being a level in a video game, let’s call it work or life.  Instead of it being poison in a video game, let’s call it stress.  Similar to my video game, the stress level builds over time.  At first, I don’t even notice it.  The levels rise over time, and then all of a sudden it hits HARD.  Anyone else been there?  When this happens, I’m no longer the person, husband, dad, friend, and employee I want to be or could be.

We are never going to live in a world without stress.  However, we can try to be more cognizant of stress, our current stress levels, and what we can do.  Similar to the poison armor, I know I handle stress better when I’m routinely taking care of myself.  Similar to the item that takes poison away, I know that getting outside, moving my body, and talking with someone helps clear stress out of my system.  Similar to needing to find a poison free space in the game, sometimes I know that I just need to step back and away from everything. 

The challenge: How will you recognize and deal with rising stress levels?

Bonus vulnerability moment- The short version is that the last few months have been hard in many aspects of life.  Using our analogy, my poison/stress meter had been overflowing for some time, and I wasn’t who I wanted to be.  I decided to leverage our Lyra benefit and talk to a therapist for the first time.  During our initial conversation I said, “I’m surviving right now, but I want more than that.  I deserve more than that.  My family does too.  I need tools or something to help me.”  It’s only been a couple of sessions so far, but I’m so thankful I reached out.  I share all of this to say that if you’re talking to someone, you’re not alone AND I’m proud of you for asking for help.  If you’re thinking of talking to someone, you’re not alone, AND I’m proud of you for recognizing that you might benefit from help.  It’s okay to want/need help sometimes.  It’s part of being human. 

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Lies of P and Being Open to Suggestions (3-6-24)

Last week was about Lies of P and scoping out a situation.  This week is about being open to suggestions from anyone and anywhere.

I was fighting the Rabbit Brotherhood, and had died multiple times.  No matter what I did, I was just too slow, and my stamina was too low to get in more than 1 or 2 attacks at any given time.  I was super frustrated.  Alice watched me do the boss battle a few times and she said, “It looks like your character is over capacity. I think that’s making you slow.”  I didn’t even entertain her comment.  I told her she was wrong.  I explained that I’ve played multiple games in this genre, and she just wasn’t right.  I bet you see where this is going.  Sure enough.  I was over capacity, which made me slow.  I fixed that problem and easily won that fight.  If only I would have listened sooner.   

What does this have to do with anything?  In the above story, I instantly discounted what Alice said, because I assumed she didn’t know enough.  She didn’t have MY experience and expertise, so there was no way that her thoughts were valid.  Have you ever done this with someone at work?  I know I have.  Maybe it was the new team member, and you told yourself they didn’t know enough yet.  Maybe it was a cross-functional partner, and you wrote them off because they had stepped out of their lane.  Maybe it was someone you had disagreed with before, so you just assumed everything they said was wrong.

While it’s true that Alice did not have the expertise or experience that I had, this doesn’t mean that her ideas were instantly invalid.  She was able to use her observational skills to see something I had missed.  I’m not saying that I should have instantly accepted her thought.  I am saying that I should have at least been open to it.  If I would have been open to it, I would have seen she was right.  In a similar way, when we hear something from someone at work who is less tenured or maybe doesn’t have our expertise, we don’t have to automatically agree with them, but we should be open minded enough to hear them out and give their thoughts a chance. 

The challenge: How will you stay open to suggestions from anywhere and anyone?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry