
The previous entry was about therapy and symptoms vs root causes. This week is about thinking traps (also called cognitive distortions).
Last week I shared that the root cause of my problems is that I got trapped in a mindset of, “This sucks. I’m stuck and powerless.” As I explored this belief with my therapist, she introduced me to the idea of thinking traps, which are patterns of negative thinking that distort our perception of reality. The way you bust out of the thinking trap is by asking what the facts are and challenging your beliefs about a situation until you find the truth. This truth empowers you to act.
My belief that “This sucks. I’m stuck and powerless” was a combination of two thinking traps, black/white thinking and catastrophizing. To challenge these traps, my therapist asked me for evidence that supported my claims. I could prove my challenges were real. I didn’t have evidence to support I was truly powerless. For example, my therapist pointed out that if work was a challenge I could get a new role, interview with another company, or at a minimum quit my job. Those were choices I could make. That was power I had in this situation. Once I shattered the illusion of being powerless, I reflected on other times I had been in tough situations, and how I had always found a way to get through them. Now the evidence was telling me a different story. I went from “This sucks. I’m stuck and powerless.” to “this sucks, AND I always find a way to get through.” I was now free from the thinking trap. Does any of this ring true for you?
There are many applications for thinking traps. Beyond using this tool to deal with stress at work or at home, we can also use this tool to solve work problems. We can pressure test our thinking to make sure we didn’t get stuck in a thinking trap. Work thinking traps often sound like, “Well, this is the way it MUST be done” or “This is the only decision that can be made” or “If we do X it will definitely lead a disaster.” Similar to my situation, we can take those statements and begin breaking them down. What is the logic that led us to that conclusion? What is the evidence? Sometimes, our assertion might be right. Often, we’ve fooled ourselves into believing something and became trapped by it.
The challenge: How will you recognize the thought traps you get stuck in?
Bonus- Here are some videos about thinking traps
- Check the facts Checking the Facts (youtube.com)
- What are thinking traps= What Are Thinking Traps? (youtube.com)
- Cognitive distortions- Video Ad (youtube.com)
Have a jolly good day,
Andrew Embry