Obstacles and Celebrating Progress/Small Wins (10-15-25)

Last week was about embracing the grimy path to success.  This week is about failed rope climbs, conquered warped walls, and celebrating progress and small wins.

I failed the warped wall 3 times at Frontline OCR back in May, which resulted in some nasty friction burns on my leg.  With that in mind, I came into the recent Midwest OCR looking for redemption.  The first obstacle I ran into was the rope climb.  I did not complete this obstacle.  HOWEVER, I’m so excited, because for the first time in my life, I actually hooked my feet correctly.  I got further than I’ve ever made it.  Then, when I got to the warped wall, I finally beat that thing!  I latched onto the rope and knew I wasn’t letting go until I had finished climbing the wall.  I had so much adrenaline running through my body after completing the wall that I thought I might pass out.

What does this have to do with anything?  It would have been easy for me to call my race a failure.  I failed obstacles.  I was slower than I wanted to be.  I didn’t win.  However, I view it a success because of the progress and small wins I had.  Now think about work for a minute.  How often do you pause to celebrate progress and small wins?  Be honest.  If you’re anything like me, it’s so easy to get focused on the end goal with a win/lose mentality that I don’t pause at work.  Then, I find myself feeling stuck or like a failure, all because I haven’t opened my eyes to the progress that has been made.  Does this sound familiar to anyone else?  It doesn’t have to be this way.  We can all be celebrating small wins on a more regular basis.

The challenge: How will you ensure you are celebrating progress and small wins along the way?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Blog #650- Central Air, Systems, and Being a Leader/Technician (8-6-25)

This is going to be the final entry in the series about replacing my air conditioning.  Last week we explored how leaders can create a cooler and more comfortable environment.  This week I want to dive deeper into this idea by exploring central air conditioning as an integrated system and being a leader/technician.

When my air conditioning was broken, my thermostat still worked.  We could set it to the desired temperature.  However, some parts of the integrated system didn’t work.  It was pushing air around, but unable to cool the air.  As a result, even if we had the temperature set where we wanted it to be, the system was unable to deliver those results.  The technician knew the thermostat was fine, and also knew the only way to achieve the desired result would be to upgrade the parts and system. 

What does this have to do with work?  A thermostat is a lot like a vision.  The thermostat/vision can be set clearly and correctly.  However, the vision doesn’t matter if we haven’t set up the pieces and processes in a way that enables us to achieve that vision.  Have you ever encountered a situation where a vision couldn’t be achieved in the current system?  Maybe, you were asked to move faster, but our internal processes were not set up to enable speed and there were not the right tools to be more efficient.  Maybe you were asked to be bold and take on more risks, but the processes and governance around you didn’t empower you to make decisions.  The system must be designed to support the vision.

With this in mind, great leaders aren’t just people who set the thermostat.  Great leaders aren’t just people who create successful environments with words.  Great leaders are the technicians who ensure the other pieces and processes will lead to achieving the vision.  Great leaders are the ones who say, “We want to move faster, well X is getting in the way.  X either needs to be removed or replaced by something that gives us speed.  Let’s take Y process and totally reimagine it to fit our needs vs the way we’ve always done things.” 

The challenge: Will you be a leader who just sets the thermostat (vision) or will you be the leader/technician who builds a system that leads to success?

Bonus:  This is blog #650.  Thanks so much for reading and encouraging me throughout the years to keep writing.  I appreciate you all being part of this journey!  If you have any favorite blogs or topics, I’d love to hear about them.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Leadership and Outside vs Inside Temperature (7-29-25)

Last week was about patching holes vs installing a new HVAC system.  This week is about leadership and the temperature outside vs creating the temperature inside.

The first day that our air conditioning stopped working, the temperature only went up a couple of degrees.  It wasn’t too bad.  Then, as the temperature shot up outside, the temperature inside kept getting hotter and hotter.  Throughout this, we tried to do the same things around the house we would normally do like clean, cook, etc.  However, we struggled as the environment around us became hotter and we became more tired and irritable.  Once the new AC unit was installed it took time, but eventually the inside of the house became cooler even though the outside was hot as ever.  Once things were cooler, it was just a bit easier to do all our normal things around the house.

You might be wondering where this is going.  Air conditioning does not stop heat.  Instead, it creates a space where it’s just a little bit cooler.  That cooler space is more manageable, a little more comfortable.  It makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Similarly, good leaders don’t stop the heat.  Good leaders don’t have the ability to wave a magical wand and remove all environmental obstacles, internal hurdles, etc.  Good leaders do create a space that is a little more comfortable.  It’s a space that makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Maybe they do this by bringing clarity to the situation.  Maybe they do this by bringing in compassion.  Maybe they do this by making clear trade-offs.  If you’re lucky your leader does all these and more.  The bottom line is that the best leaders create the spaces where it’s a bit easier to have success.

The challenge: As a leader, how are you creating a “cool” space for people to flourish?

Bonus observation: I see a fair amount of people getting burnt out from always being in the heat.  It’s easy to say it’s their fault, because they didn’t prioritize their work, they didn’t make trade-off decisions, they didn’t handle the stress well, etc.  I understand there is some accountability on the individual.  I would also argue that this is actually more reflective of a leadership failure within the organization/system.  If the leader is clear on the vision and makes clear trade-offs concerning what will and won’t be worked on by their team, then this creates a “cooler” environment where it is easier for employees to stay focused on the right things.  It’s easier for employees to focus on the value add work and not burn out.  If the leader doesn’t make these calls, then they are letting all the heat in from outside, which contributes a lot to stress, burnout, and more.

Positive real world example. I went to my boss a couple of weeks ago and talked about how I was drowning in work, and how I wanted to make sure he and I were aligned on what matters most.  His response was, “What are the 3 most important things you need to execute to provide value to the organization?”  I told him, and we aligned on those 3 things.  Most importantly, he acknowledged the trade-offs.  I’d go all in on those 3 things and we’d be okay if everything else was either slow and/or did not get done.  Included in the “don’t worry about it pile” were the emails and asks he had sent me about things not related to those 3 key focus areas.  When he aligned on the trade-offs, he stuck by that even when some of his requests were now going to be ignored 😉  That’s what prioritization and making trade-offs looks like.  That 5 minute conversation and alignment quickly made the temperature cooler.  It made it easier for me to focus and do the things I needed to do.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Expanding Your Comfort Zone (6-26-24)

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Description automatically generatedLast week was about parenting and tailoring support.  This week is about expanding your comfort zone.

About a year ago, Cameron watched his sister in The Wizard of Oz on the big stage in the spring play.  This sparked Cam’s interest in doing something similar.  The only problem was that he was nervous and scared to do something like that.  This was outside of his comfort zone.  Instead of giving up, Cam thought about things he could do to expand his current comfort zone, so being on the big stage wouldn’t be such a big leap.  He started by signing up for a puppet camp last summer.  Then he signed up and participated in a fall show with younger kids.  He found he enjoyed those two things, and this gave him the confidence to be in a bigger show.  A few weeks ago, he was on the big stage in Beauty and the Beast.  He was in the ensemble, so mainly in the background as a villager and a dancing spoon.  However, he ended up getting one line.  He’s proud of being the angry mob member who yelled, “Kill him!” which started everyone to go after the Beast.  Now that he’s had one line, he’s starting to think about auditioning for a bigger part next year.  The audition is a little daunting, so he’s already thinking of smaller things he can do to stretch his comfort zone for that.

What does this have to do with anything?  Cam saw how far out of his comfort zone being on stage was, and instead of giving up he became INTENTIONAL about taking small steps to expand his comfort zone.  The first couple of shows gave him confidence.  Then practicing for the big show set up him for success.  By the time he was on the show, he was 100% feeling himself, and I loved his swagger 😉 Now think about your own life.  Are there things you’d like to do outside of your comfort zone?  Those things might seem too big and too scary now, but are there small steps you can take to move toward them?

The challenge: How will you expand your comfort zone?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Parenting, Obstacle Course Races, and Tailoring Support (6-19-24)

Last week was about Alice’s wisdom, “Have a day you can be proud of.”  This week is a story about parenting, obstacle course racing, and tailoring support.  Shout out to Mud Run – Hollis Adams for putting on such a fabulous family friendly event.

On Saturday, Alice joined me for her first ever obstacle course race.  To say that she was nervous would be a major understatement.  I told her it was okay to be nervous, and that I’d be there beside her.  I explained that I wasn’t going to swoop in and do the obstacles for her, but I would be there to help her if she needed it.  Sometimes, helping her looked like me giving her advice on how to attempt an obstacle.  Sometimes, support looked like me giving her a boost, so she could get her footing while climbing a muddy creek bank.  Sometimes, support looked like me saying, “I know you’re scared because you’re on top of this tall wall.  You can still do this.  I’m here.  Just swing your leg over.”  Sometimes, support looked like me just cheering her on and high fiving her for conquering an obstacle.  By the end of the race, we had achieved our goals, and Alice was so excited and proud of herself.  I was super pumped too!  (The picture on the right is out before picture. The after picture is at the bottom).

What does this have to do with anything?  There were several times where Alice was nervous or flat out scared.  It would have been EASY for me to do all the work for her, but that would have robbed her of a chance to grow and see what she was capable of.  Instead of doing it for her, I helped and offered support.  That support took different forms based on HER needs in that specific moment.  Now think about work for a minute.  The best leaders I ever had weren’t the ones who swooped in and saved me from a challenge.  The best leaders I ever had were the ones who knew how to tailor their support to the situation.  Sometimes, I needed explicit direction, because I was lost.  Sometimes, I needed a thought partner to challenge my assumptions.  Sometimes, I just needed someone to say, “I trust you.  Go get’em!”

The challenge: How will you tailor the coaching and support you give to people?

Bonus lesson- I mentioned that Alice was nervous about the race.  In particular, she was worried about what would happen if she wasn’t strong enough to handle an obstacle.  She’s a planner and needed to know how things would work out.  I needed her to trust that I was strong and able to help her in any situation.  Here’s what I did.  I came home after my 20 miles of racing, and said, “I did 20 miles of racing yesterday.  I’m at my weakest and most tired point.  I need you to know that even now, I’m strong enough to support you.  I want you to know that I’ve helped boost and lift people who are my size, so you’ll be easy.  We are going to practice, so you know how this will work.”  From there, we practiced me giving her boosts and lifting her up.  I even had her sit on my shoulders while I squatted her for reps.  I walked around the house with her on my shoulders, so she knew I could carry her.  I know this all sounds ridiculous, but those actions showed her that she could trust my strength.  She realized that if I was able to do that when I was tired and weak, I’d be even better when I was rested up for our race.  As a leader, I’m not asking you to pick up people and squat them for reps (I’m pretty sure HR would frown on that 😉).  I am asking you to consider what you could do to inspire trust in the people you lead.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

What Problem does your Brand Solve? (4-10-24)

Last week we started a series about personal branding and thinking about the space you own in someone’s mind.  This week we will dive a little deeper and reflect on brands and the problem they solve.

Let’s pretend for a minute that you’re hungry and you’re looking to go somewhere to eat.  Where would you go?  What places immediately popped into your mind?  Now let’s slightly tweak the problem you’re solving.  You’re hungry AND you need to grab something relatively quickly.  Where do you go?  Maybe you think about Panera, Chipotle, or McDonalds.  Let’s say you’re hungry AND you want a place where you can kick back and chill.  Where do you go?  My first thought is Moontown, a local brewpub.  Let’s say you’re hungry AND are craving pizza.  Where do you go?  Maybe you think of a chain like Pizza Hut or maybe you think of a local pizza place. 

You might be wondering how this connects with personal branding.  All the above places could solve the generic issue of being hungry.  However, each of them is best equipped to solve a more specific hunger related problem.  Some brands focus more on speed, others on types of food, and others on the overarching experience they want to deliver.  Similarly, I often hear people articulate their personal brand by saying things like, “I’m creative.  I’m a leader.  I’m a team player.”  All those things could be true.  They are also very generic and broad.  They are often so broad that they end up representing a generic brand instead of a specific person.  When I hear things like this I often say, “I hear the buzzwords, but I don’t hear YOU.  Can you get more specific?  What do you help with?” 

I think all of us can address a variety of problems, and there are certain types of problems we are best equipped to solve.  If you’re looking for someone to build detailed process maps, do hardcore editing of documents, code computers, understand/apply regulatory rulings, have/share deep medical expertise, embrace rigid standards, or run a large multi-billion dollar company I am NOT your guy.  Those are all important skills, and they are NOT my strengths or passions.  However, if you need someone to communicate something clearly and effectively, move people to take action, love/care for people, transform ambiguity into smaller parts so you can attack a problem, look at things from perspectives you wouldn’t think of, tell bad dad jokes, keep it real, bring the energy and funktastic flavor, or rock an awesome beard then call me 😉  Those are all problems that align with my passion and strengths.  Those are the kinds of problems I’m more uniquely positioned to solve.  That is what my brand is about (or at least I hope that’s how you experience me).

The challenge: What specific problems do you solve?  When should people call you vs someone else?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Professional and Personal Quarterly Check-in (3-27-24)

This week’s entry is about quarterly check-ins for work and for yourself.  It’s a longer email, because I’m including my own quarterly self-assessment as an example.

As we finish out the end of Q1, I find myself doing a lot of reflecting on the progress that has been made on various projects and tasks at work.  I’m asking myself things like, “Where are we now compared to where we were at the beginning of the quarter?  Were we able to achieve our goals?  If so, how do we keep up the momentum?  If not, what should we adjust to do better?  How can we ensure we regroup and are clear and focused for Q2?”  It seems like a perfect moment to pause, reflect, regroup, and plan before attacking Q2.

What does this have to do anything?  While this is great for work, we could apply this same thinking to our personal lives as well.  What are some of your goals for 2024?  How did you do with them in Q1?  Have you stopped to CELEBRATE your progress?  Stop RIGHT NOW and celebrate something you’ve achieved.  After you celebrate, then you can reflect and see if there are any gaps.  If you have gaps, why do you have gaps?  What happened?  What got in the way?  How can you adjust to reach your goals for this quarter?

The challenge: Will you take the time to do a quarterly check-in?  What changes will you make to set yourself up for the rest of the year?

Bonus: Here is my review based on the dimensions in my life I set goals for.  Hopefully, it sparks a thought or two for you.  Also, just know if things have been tough lately, you’re not the only one.  Bottom line- tough quarter, and I need to bounce back. The picture of me flipping a tire is from my most recent obstacle course race and summarizes my Q1 in a nutshell. It was all about moving heavy stuff and getting through it.  I did it, but dang it was so much harder and uglier than I wanted it to be, or it needed to be.

  • Intentionally Invest (D+)- This is my mantra for the year.  This is about being intentional about where and how I invest my energy.  Investing my energy means doing the right things that help me be the best version of myself.  I gave myself a bad grade, because I wasn’t intentional.  I got overwhelmed by a lot of things and just started recklessly spending energy.  It wasn’t helpful and it didn’t help me get to where I wanted to go.
  • Mental Health (C-)- Overall, I want to feel like I’m in a good, strong, solid mental state.  In full transparency, life and work just kicked my butt this quarter.  The stress was overwhelming and was too much for me to manage in an efficient way.  I got really lost and stuck trying to trudge through everything.  Feeling lost and stuck drained so much of my mental energy.  I spent so much energy here that I didn’t spend it on taking care of myself.  I am proud of myself for getting some help.  Moving forward, I need to use the new tools I’m developing, so I won’t get so stuck.  If I can do that, everything else will improve dramatically. 
  • Physical Health (C-)- The goal is to take good care of myself, so I can do the things I want to be able to do.  The only reason I’m not giving myself a worse grade, is because I did manage to at least hold things together enough to complete a couple of obstacle course races.  Other than that, I was inconsistent with working out, my sleep was poor, and my nutrition was abysmal.  I’m ready to do better in Q2.
  • Family (ugly hard-earned B)- The goal is to feel like I’m being an amazing husband and dad.  As they say in The Inside Job podcast, “Life gets lifey.”  It’s been a hard few months with each day seemingly bringing new challenges.  I give myself an “ugly hard-earned B” because it’s like one of those things in school where you have to put in so much effort you dang near exhaust yourself just to make it.  I was not necessarily excellent, but I found ways to hold it together.  It’s an ugly B, but one I can be proud of.  At the same time, I think some work and mental health challenges got in the way of me being on the top of my game here.
  • Career (ugly hard-earned B)- The goal is to feel like I’m delivering magic.  It’s a high bar about being in a flow state and getting incredible things done.  Similar to my Family category, challenges kept popping up and compounding on themselves day in and day out.  As a result, this quarter was filled with nothing but peaks and valleys, and they couldn’t have been further from each other.  At times I was operating at a high level, and there were other times when I felt like an ineffective burned-out piece of garbage.  This is another hard-earned ugly B that left me a little bruised and roughed up.  I believe I focused on the right things.  It just so happens that all the right things were the extremely difficult, and it was like carving through ambiguity made of marble while walking through quicksand.  It took so much energy to keep slogging forward, and I know I was burned out for a period of time.  On the positive side, I’m proud of myself for finding a way to regroup.  I feel I’m getting my energy and magic back.  All I need is a little more momentum, and then I’ll be like the Juggernaut (bonus points if you get the X-men reference)
  • Financial (B)- The goal is to ensure we are saving/investing money in the right way.  I’ve already shifted money for investments.  Some of these have been home repair things (replacing the hot water heater has been AMAZING!) and some of these are investing in fun vacations for later in the year.  I do acknowledge that I was wasting too much money on junk food and stuff as I was super stressed.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Discomfort, Paralysis, and the Glacier Leap (2-7-24)

Last week was about discomfort and psychological safety.  This week is about discomfort, paralysis, and the Glacier Leap.

The Glacier Leap is one of the obstacles at the Abominable Snow Race.  You start by climbing up an incline wall (covered in snow/ice/slush) until you are on top of the first structure and about 7 or 8 feet off the ground.  This is where things get interesting.  You have to jump to the next structure making sure you position your body correctly and grab the bar tightly or you will fall.

When I got to the top of the structure, I watched as people would stand at the edge and peer down.  You could feel them becoming more and more uncomfortable until they ultimately became paralyzed at the thought of falling.  At that point, they wouldn’t jump.  Instead, they’d turn around and climb down without ever giving it a try.  I knew that the same thing would happen to me if I didn’t move quickly.  I made a decision.  I would step up to the edge, count out loud, and jump on three.  Any more hesitation and the discomfort would turn to fear would turn to paralysis.  So, I stepped up, counted to three and jumped!  My hands grasped the bar, my feet hit a patch of ice on the wood, and I instantly slid down and fell.  It wasn’t exactly pleasant. 😉  At this point, I was determined (or dumb), and refused to let this obstacle beat me.  I climbed back up.  This time I had an advantage, because I knew exactly what the discomfort felt like. I knew exactly what falling felt like.  I had survived, and now those things weren’t so scary.  I stepped up, counted to three, and jumped!  This time I made it!  With my heart beating out of my chest, I stepped up and jumped to the next platform!  Success!

What does this have to do with anything?  Whether you’re doing an obstacle course race or performing your role at work, sooner or later we all run into a patch of discomfort.  When that happens it is easy for the discomfort to turn into fear which turns into paralysis.  Have you ever experienced this at work?  I know I have.  I’ve walked out of situations and said, “I wish I would have asked this.  I wish I would have said that.  I wish I would have done something different, but I just froze.”

I wish I had a magic way to avoid this, but I haven’t uncovered one yet.  All I’ve found is that once the discomfort starts setting in, I need to move.  I need to take some kind of action before the discomfort becomes fear and before the fear becomes paralysis.  During the obstacle course race I counted to three and then jumped.  Counting was the trigger to move.  What could your trigger to move be at work?  Maybe you write down the statement or question you think you’ll want to make, so when you start to freeze you can just read off the paper.  Maybe your action isn’t dealing with something that day, but scheduling time on calendars to handle it in the future.  Maybe it’s recognizing that the paralysis is taking over and just stepping out of the situation to catch your breath.

The challenge: How will you ensure discomfort doesn’t paralyze you?

#yetination #abominablesnowrace

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry