Finding Lessons in Challenging Situations (Abominable Snow Race) 2-4-26

This is a one-off entry inspired by the Abominable Snow Race. It’s about finding lessons in challenging situations.

I managed to talk my entire family into doing the Abominable Snow Race this year. We did the 5k obstacle course race through the snowy wooded trails of Wisconsin. I can’t say it was exactly fun, BUT it was an adventure. Here are a few of the highlights/lowlights 😉

It was cold! At the start of the race we were at 0 degrees Fahrenheit, a lot worse than we thought it would be. The course also had more hills than anticipated.
The first mile was gorgeous. Beautiful wooded trails, lots of fresh snow to eat, and a few easy obstacles to warm up on. We even saw a local racing legend who does the race in a speedo every year. I don’t know if he is brave, tough, crazy, or all of the above.
By mile 2 things got rough. We were tired and cold. We were all a bit cranky. I kept telling the kids that we only had one really difficult thing left. We had to climb up this steep hill with a rope. We got about ¾ up the incline when we all went tumbling down. I skinned my knee and for a moment the kids thought we would be trapped in the woods forever living as forest monks. (actual quote)
Now we were at mile 2.5. We were taking a break, the kids gasping for breath, overwhelmed and unsure if they could make it. Out of nowhere this woman comes over to check out on us. She tells my kids she feels their pain and is suffering right along with them. She tells us she’s from North Carolina and NOT AT ALL READY for the cold or snow. We look at her face and a combo of sweat, ice, and tears had her mascara running down her face like war paint. The kids snap out of their moment and go walking along like they are perfectly fine, and the woman joins us, another duck in our row. We become a merry band of misfits, offering moral support as we wind through the woods for the last half mile of the race. The woman says how her kids would never be able to do this, which makes my kids feel incredible.
We crossed the finish line, and while it wasn’t pretty we made it. We were all angry, exhausted, and freezing. We had been through some things. Everyone was so grumpy we didn’t even talk for like 15 minutes. After we got some food in our belly we looked back and started laughing at the wild series of events. Also, I helped the kids see that even if it was hard, even if they struggled, they did something that day that most people wouldn’t even try to do.

Our lessons from the day

It’s possible to find humor and even joy in things that suck. It may not have all been fun at the time, but looking back, the entire experience is HILARIOUS! We have laughed so hard recounting the tales with folks.
Part of the reason why it was so hard is we assumed it wouldn’t be as hilly and as cold as it initially was. It’s a good lesson that being physically AND mentally prepared for the worst comes in handy.
It’s nice to have a reminder of what you are capable of. The race was a testament that we can do hard things. During future challenges one of our measuring sticks will be, “Is this as hard as the Abominable Snow Race?” Probably not. I’m so dang proud of my kiddos for doing this.
There are always people out there to commiserate with and help along. Our encounter with the woman was a cool one. She helped us and we helped her.
If you’re angry and hate the world, maybe you’re just tired, cold, and hungry. A good warm meal can solve a lot of problems 😉

Connection with work- Maybe you’re not trudging through cold and snow right now. I’d bet that you are facing some challenges. With this in mind, I imagine that some of the lessons we learned during our race are applicable to where you are too.

The challenge- What lessons will you take from the challenge you are currently in?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Races and Different Ways of Recharging (10-21-25)

Blog coming to you today, because I’m out of office tomorrow. 😉 This week is about different ways of recharging.

This might not make any sense to anyone. My racing hobby is one of my favorite things to do to RECHARGE my batteries. Right now, at least one of you is thinking, “So, running/hiking for miles in the heat, crawling through rock and mud, climbing on stuff, carrying heavy things, and picking up all kinds of bumps and bruises is recharging for you. Is there something wrong with you?” It’s a fair question 😉 All of those things are true, AND it’s time outside, mainly on my own without any distractions. It’s a time to be with my thoughts. It’s also a time to discover and push past my limits which is invigorating. Because of those things and more, races might take a lot of physical energy, but they fill so many of my other energy buckets.

Let’s connect some dots. Whenever I find myself feeling stressed or tired from work, one of my first instincts is that I need to rest to recharge. Resting looks taking it easy all day, not doing anything, and maybe even fitting in a nap. Sometimes, this helps me feel a bit better. Sometimes, it doesn’t. It’s not that resting was bad. It just wasn’t what I needed at the time.

Over the past few years, I’ve learned that when I need to recharge, sometimes I need to rest and other times I need something different. Sometimes, recharging looks like reading or writing blogs and poems. Sometimes, recharging is playing with Legos. Sometimes, recharging looks like hanging out with my family. Sometimes, recharging is being by myself for a period of time. Sometimes recharging is a good workout or an obstacle course race. How do you recharge?

The challenge: How are you being intentional about recharging in these busy and stressful times?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Embracing the Grimy Path to Success (10-8-25)

This week we are going to kick off some reflections from my recent obstacle course race at Midwest OCR. Our first topic is embracing the grimy path to success.

Here is the picture of me after my most recent obstacle course race. I’m smiling, striking a pose, looking strong, and proudly wearing my medal. This picture makes it look like I smoothly and effortlessly navigated the race in a perfect fashion. None of that is true. My race was ugly. You don’t see how I failed quite a few obstacles. You don’t see me red faced and feeling like I was dying on some of those hills. You don’t see the time I tripped and slid down a hill into a knee-deep mud bog that swallowed my legs and almost took my shoes. You don’t see the bruises I picked up along the way. Now that you know those things, does this make me any less successful? For me, just because it might have been a little ugly doesn’t take away from the fact that I was ultimately successful.

Let’s make some connections. Have you ever looked at a successful person and said, “Whoa! They have it all figured out. They just make success look so smooth and effortless. They must be perfect”? I know I have. Then the next thing I did was start comparing myself to them, which led to self-doubt. I would feel like a failure if everything I did wasn’t effortless and smooth. As I’ve got older, I’ve realized that success doesn’t come from things being flawless. Success is the result of continuing to persevere, especially when things are grimy and ugly.

The challenge: Will you embrace that success doesn’t have to be pristine? Will you embrace that the path to success is often grimy and ugly?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Discomfort, Psychological Safety, and the Yeti Challenge (1-31-24)

Last week was about embracing discomfort, so you can be successful. This week is about discomfort, psychological safety, and the Yeti challenge.

This past weekend I completed the Abominable Snow Race. I did the Yeti challenge, which consisted of 12 miles through ice/snow/mud/slush and around 50 obstacles. I was in a constant state of discomfort through most of the race. I was cold, wet, sore, covered in bruises, had a weird spot on my hand we call a yeti bite because we have no idea what happened (credit to Kristina Kittle for the name), and I was nervous/anxious/scared a fair amount. It would have been easy for me to say, “I’m uncomfortable, so that means this isn’t safe.” However, even though I was in a constant state of discomfort, the course and environment were safe. Plus, I felt like a complete bad a$$ when I crossed that finish line. #yetination

How does this connect with work and psychological safety? There are a lot of different definitions for psychological safety. At their core, I believe that most definitions center on the idea of creating an environment where people can be themselves and freely share their ideas without fear of negative repercussions. What you’ll notice if you read different definitions is that none of them promise a workplace without any discomfort or tension. This connects back to my racing story. I was uncomfortable for most of the race, AND I was still safe. In a similar way, it’s easy to be in a tough conversation or situation at work and think to yourself, “This isn’t comfortable, so this environment must not be safe.” This isn’t necessarily true. Tension, challenging questions, or a difficult conversation at work, doesn’t mean that the environment lacks psychological safety. Sometimes what we are feeling is just discomfort, and we need to find a way to process that and move forward. In my experience the more psychological safety I have with a person or group the more real conversations we can have that include tension and discomfort, and like how I felt when I finished the race I usually feel so much better after these convos. Is this true for you?

The challenge- How will you think about discomfort vs psychological safety?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Why are our Challenges Challenging? (11-30-22)

I hope you had a fabulous Thanksgiving. We are winding down for the year, so the next few entries will be things to think about as you wrap up. This week is about reflecting on why our challenges were challenging this year.

As you might know, obstacle course racing is my new hobby. Let me be clear. I’m not good at these races. I fail a lot of obstacles and I’m slow. With that said, usually I can get up and over the 6-foot wall obstacle with little difficulty. I have the strength and skill to do that one (other obstacles, not so much 😉) Recently, I completed a race in Arizona. When I got to the 6-foot wall I struggled a few times before I got over it. I started thinking about why I had an issue with something that I can normally do on the first try. I realized a few things. Usually, the 6-foot wall is one of the first obstacles and happens early in the race around mile 1. Also, I was used to races in the Midwest where I was running on dirt and grass. This particular 6-foot wall came around mile 3, after I had completed other obstacles and spent a fair amount of time running on loose sand. Clearing the 6-foot wall on its own is challenging, but doable. Clearing the 6-foot wall after getting through a series of challenges BEFORE I ever got there, made it more difficult because my legs and body were more tired than usual.

What does this have to do with anything? As we finish the year, we likely will have some kind of end of year discussion. During this time, you’ll likely be asked to talk about your successes as well as the areas where you struggled and could improve. When you think about those areas where you could have improved, spend time thinking about why it was difficult. Was it difficult because you didn’t have the knowledge or skillset to do it? Or was it something you normally could have done, but it became a challenge since it came after so many other obstacles that popped up in your path? As I reflect, there were some things I didn’t do as well as I had hoped, because they were new to me. There were other situations where I had the skills and talent to handle them well, but since they came at the end of a slew of barriers, I didn’t handle them as well as I could have. As you can see, these are two different root causes for why you could struggle with something, and each root cause has its own set of solutions. I know I’m continuing to reflect on what I can do to improve in each instance.

The challenge: Why did you find certain things challenging this year?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry