
Last week we kicked off a series about looking at emotions differently. We began by thinking about “losing” face vs. “finding” yourself. This week we are going to take a second to think about rivers as they relate to controlling and channeling our emotions.
Pretend for a minute that I asked you to go to a river and trap the water. Imagine forcing the running river into boxes and Tupperware containers. Imagine the sloshing, the energy, the swift current pushing on all corners of the container as it finds itself trapped. Imagine you were successful. Now you would have a river trapped in piles of containers. Let’s think about something else. Pretend for a moment that I asked you to change the course of a river. Imagine I asked you to dig irrigation ditches to redirect and guide the water to a new location. This would be a lot of work. What good could this water do after it was redirected to dry soil?
How do the above situations connect to work? Rivers are like emotions. It is up to you to decide what you do with your emotions. You can try to control your emotions and box them up, stacking them off somewhere to the side, or you can find a way to channel and reroute your emotions into something. Why is this important? If you’re anything like me for the longest time I tried to box up my emotions, especially the bad ones. I felt that doing this was the professional thing to do. I felt this proved I had strength. Since then I’ve changed my mindset. I’ve realized I was hurting myself by not feeling things. I now try to better embrace my feelings and in time, (if I’m able) I try to channel it, to change its course to turn it into something that can help instead of destroy.
I’m not great at this yet, but I’m trying to be more okay with feeling everything. I hope you become more okay with feeling things too. I hope you allow yourself to feel angry and upset. I hope you get irritated that often when are the ones who are getting in the way of fulfilling our mission to help people. I hope you allow yourself to shed a few tears. I hope you feel pride in the work you do and the person you are. I hope you are overcome with joy when someone you know accomplishes great things. I hope you feel love when you step into the doors. I hope you feel so much and so strongly that sometimes you don’t even know what to do with it. It’s okay. I’ve been there, I am there.
As you feel those things, I hope you channel them into something. I hope the anger and fury turns into tenacity, an unlimited will to do what is right for the people we serve. I hope the joy is transformed into laughter, hugs, high fives, and all the little things we can do to remind each other that work is more than trudging through meetings and slide decks. I hope the love you feel causes you to reach out to people when they need you and to reach out to people because you need them. I hope that all of the emotions you have inside of you are channeled somewhere, instead of locked away in a vault. I hope you find a way to redirect your emotions to bring water to dry soil.
The challenge: Are you controlling or channeling your emotions?
Have a jolly good day,
Andrew Embry








