Last week we talked about how doubt can be a dowsing rod that leads us to growth. This week I want us to think about lifting weights, failure, and development.
If you read any fitness magazine it will tell you that if you want to gain strength you need to lift weights. More specifically, it will tell you to lift weight heavy enough to the point where you are only able to do 8-10 reps per set. The idea is that by the 10th rep you’ve lifted so much weight that your muscles are unable to lift more. Your muscles essentially FAIL at lifting the weight.
If you do this often enough your muscles basically say, “I’m tired of failing. I need to get stronger,” and your body goes through the process of enhancing your muscles and your strength. Over time you’ll gain strength and you will be able to lift more weight than you did before, and then the cycle begins again. (Obviously anatomy wasn’t my strong suit based on that technical explanation of developing muscles). The bottom line is that you have to push yourself to the point of failure in order to make your muscles grow and gain strength.
What does lifting weights have to do with development and failure? I feel that when we think of failure we think of these humongous disasters that lead to us getting down on ourselves. We don’t have to look at failure that way. Failure isn’t something that has to get us down. Failure is just a sign that we are pushing ourselves. If you aren’t failing you aren’t pushing. If you aren’t pushing then you can’t grow. When I work out I don’t say, “I could only do 8 reps at that weight, so I’m the worst person ever!” Instead I’m filled with pride at the fact that I pushed myself hard and I’m filled with a desire to keep doing better. Instead of feeling down I say, “I pushed myself as far as I could on this day. I’m not as strong as I want to be, but I know I can be stronger next time.” Then as I continue to work out I push myself until before I know it, I’m stronger and faster than I have been.
My current role. I’ve now been in my role for about a month. I’m not as clever or as smart as I’d like to be. I can’t move as quickly as I did when I’ve been competent in other roles. I’m not quite able to lift the weight I want to lift…YET. Every day is another small failure. Every day is another day to push to fall just short of the high bar I set for myself. I don’t feel discouraged though. I feel proud and excited, because every day I can see where I’m getting better and stronger. I can’t wait until I feel like I’m full on beast mode.
The challenge: Are you pushing yourself hard enough to fail? Are your failures helping you become stronger?
Have a jolly good day,
Andrew Embry









