Leadership and Outside vs Inside Temperature (7-29-25)

Last week was about patching holes vs installing a new HVAC system.  This week is about leadership and the temperature outside vs creating the temperature inside.

The first day that our air conditioning stopped working, the temperature only went up a couple of degrees.  It wasn’t too bad.  Then, as the temperature shot up outside, the temperature inside kept getting hotter and hotter.  Throughout this, we tried to do the same things around the house we would normally do like clean, cook, etc.  However, we struggled as the environment around us became hotter and we became more tired and irritable.  Once the new AC unit was installed it took time, but eventually the inside of the house became cooler even though the outside was hot as ever.  Once things were cooler, it was just a bit easier to do all our normal things around the house.

You might be wondering where this is going.  Air conditioning does not stop heat.  Instead, it creates a space where it’s just a little bit cooler.  That cooler space is more manageable, a little more comfortable.  It makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Similarly, good leaders don’t stop the heat.  Good leaders don’t have the ability to wave a magical wand and remove all environmental obstacles, internal hurdles, etc.  Good leaders do create a space that is a little more comfortable.  It’s a space that makes it a little bit easier to do the things you need to do.  Maybe they do this by bringing clarity to the situation.  Maybe they do this by bringing in compassion.  Maybe they do this by making clear trade-offs.  If you’re lucky your leader does all these and more.  The bottom line is that the best leaders create the spaces where it’s a bit easier to have success.

The challenge: As a leader, how are you creating a “cool” space for people to flourish?

Bonus observation: I see a fair amount of people getting burnt out from always being in the heat.  It’s easy to say it’s their fault, because they didn’t prioritize their work, they didn’t make trade-off decisions, they didn’t handle the stress well, etc.  I understand there is some accountability on the individual.  I would also argue that this is actually more reflective of a leadership failure within the organization/system.  If the leader is clear on the vision and makes clear trade-offs concerning what will and won’t be worked on by their team, then this creates a “cooler” environment where it is easier for employees to stay focused on the right things.  It’s easier for employees to focus on the value add work and not burn out.  If the leader doesn’t make these calls, then they are letting all the heat in from outside, which contributes a lot to stress, burnout, and more.

Positive real world example. I went to my boss a couple of weeks ago and talked about how I was drowning in work, and how I wanted to make sure he and I were aligned on what matters most.  His response was, “What are the 3 most important things you need to execute to provide value to the organization?”  I told him, and we aligned on those 3 things.  Most importantly, he acknowledged the trade-offs.  I’d go all in on those 3 things and we’d be okay if everything else was either slow and/or did not get done.  Included in the “don’t worry about it pile” were the emails and asks he had sent me about things not related to those 3 key focus areas.  When he aligned on the trade-offs, he stuck by that even when some of his requests were now going to be ignored 😉  That’s what prioritization and making trade-offs looks like.  That 5 minute conversation and alignment quickly made the temperature cooler.  It made it easier for me to focus and do the things I needed to do.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Patching Holes vs Installing a New System (7-23-25)

Last week was about our broken air conditioning and stepping away from the heat.  This week is about deciding between patching holes vs installing a new system.

Our house had been hot for days by the time the air conditioning company could come take a look at it.  When they showed up, we assumed that the problem would be fixed.  However, it wasn’t that straight forward, because some parts were broken.  Our unit was old, and we had a choice.  We could pay a decent amount of money to replace the parts, knowing that it’s an old system that will likely go out again, and that the system is no longer efficient.  Or, we could make a larger investment and replace the system with something that is more efficient and better.  We chose to invest in the new system, because long-term it would be better.

Let’s make some connections.  Have you ever seen this type of situation play out at work?  Maybe, you worked with equipment or technology that was aging, and you had to choose from patching it up or replacing the system.  Maybe, the way you did marketing no longer matched the environment, and you had to choose between continuing to do what you’ve done in the past or replacing the system with new processes and ways of working.  In both of these situations it likely would be easier to just keep on the path you were on.  It likely would be more comfortable.  It would likely be less expensive in the moment.  However, would it be the right thing to do?  It all depends.  As the world continues to evolve and as we grow, we will continually need to make a choice between patching up holes vs installing a new system.

The challenge: When will you patch things up so they can get by and when will you install a new system?

Bonus- This thinking can apply to our personal lives too.  If you’re anything like me, you’ve had moments where you realized your ways of thinking and viewing the world no longer worked as well as they once did as the world changed and as you started to grow.  You were then faced with a choice.  You could keep force fitting those old ways of thinking or you could invest in upgrading your whole belief system.  Evolving your belief system is hard work and requires a lot of time, but usually it’s more than worth it.  I can tell you that I have more love, compassion, and patience now than I ever had before, but it took me some work to get there.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Stepping Away from the Heat (7-16-25)

Last week we kicked off a series of lessons my family learned when our air conditioning went out.  This entry is about stepping away from the heat.

Our air conditioning was down for around a week or so.  We spent the first five of those days staying at home, trying to keep cool, while the temperature continually rose in the house.  By the fifth day, we were all sick of consistently being hot, sweaty, and uncomfortable.  We were all low key grumpy and irritated at each other and the world. 

While it wasn’t ideal, I decided to get us a hotel room just down the street for the night.  It might sound silly, but this made a HUGE difference.  Everyone had a chance to step away from the environment for a day and be more comfortable.  It gave us a chance to recharge and recenter.  The next day, we opted to drive over to my parents’ house and have a sleepover in the middle of the week, which my kids thought was the best thing ever.  After stepping away for a couple of days we had recharged and were ready to handle the heat and other things life threw in our direction.

You might be wondering what this has to do with anything.  When we first went to the hotel room, we weren’t aware of the toll the heat was taking on us.  We didn’t realize how agitated we had become.  Stepping away from that heat not only gave us perspective, but it gave us a chance to recharge.

Think about your life for a minute.  Maybe there’s a challenge at work.  Maybe there’s a challenge at home.  Maybe there is a tough environment.  Sure, you could just stay in that environment every day, but sooner or later that will wear you down.  You might need to step away from it for a minute.  You might need to step away to clear your mind.  You might need to step away into a better feeling environment to reground.  You might need to step away, so you can recharge.  The heat of life is always going to be there, but that doesn’t mean you have to stay in it all the time.

The challenge: Will you recognize when you need to step away from the heat?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Handling Heat and Showing Compassion (7-9-25)

Last week, our air conditioning went out and we had to replace the entire unit.  This bit of bad luck will be the inspiration for this series, so I’m hoping it’s fire 😉  Our first entry will be about handling heat, what that does and doesn’t mean, and showing compassion.  

Let’s set the scene.  The air conditioning is out.  It is hot and humid outside.  The house feels gross.  The heat was particularly tough on my wife and kids.  At night, I would go upstairs and sleep, even though it was hotter up there.  Meanwhile, they had created a fort of cool with portable mattresses and all of the fans they could muster. 

The factual statement is that I was able to sleep upstairs when they couldn’t.  It would be easy to think this somehow makes me tougher or stronger than them.  This might be true, but there could be other explanations.  Maybe, our bodies process the experience of being overheated differently.  Maybe, our bodies get overheated at different rates.  Maybe, since I’m usually hot to begin with, I just have more experience being hot and uncomfortable so it’s not too different for me.  Maybe, they are dealing with other challenges I’m not dealing with, so I can put more energy toward temperature regulation.  I could sleep upstairs, but that doesn’t necessarily make me tougher, stronger, or better.

Let’s connect some dots.  Have you ever looked at someone else and thought, “They must stronger or better than me, because they handle that well?”  Or have you ever thought, “Why am I so much worse and weaker than other people?”  I know I have.  I’ve thought about these things as it relates to physical pain, stress, and more.

When I was younger, I’d look at people and think, “Whoa! That person must be tough,” or “That person just needs to put in the effort and suck it up!” as if it were that simple and straight forward.  As I get older, and hopefully a bit wiser, I realize there is more to it than that.  Maybe that person has put in the effort and is that strong.  Maybe that person appears strong because they have cut off all of their emotions, which isn’t exactly healthy.  Maybe that person who is struggling on a task has a whole lot of other things in life kicking the crap out of them right now.  Maybe I’m experiencing a person when they aren’t at their best, while they are so strong and amazing in other aspects of life.  The bottom line of all of this is I’ve learned to show more understanding and a heck of a lot more compassion.

The challenge: Will you show more understanding and compassion to others?  Will you show more understanding and compassion to YOURSELF?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

My Mid-Year Reflection (6-25-25)

This entry is focused on a few key lessons I’ve learned from reflecting at the mid-year point. As I reflect, I truly believe this is one of the best quarters I’ve had in life in a hot minute.  If you want you can read the attachments, where I noodle on the different aspects of my life. Between the attachment and the lessons below, I hope something inspires you. 

  1. Give yourself permission to focus on 1 or 2 key things– This can be really scary, because if you truly focus on 1 or 2 key things, then this ultimately means there are dozens of things you won’t pay as much attention to.  Inevitably, those dozens of things will not be done perfectly.  This is the scary part.  The realistic part is that those dozens of things likely don’t need to be perfect anyway.  At work, my main focus was the rollout and adoption of our synthetic respondent tool.  I truly believe that giving it the attention it deserved has already led to a lot of great things.  Outside of work, my main focus was on my physical health and more specifically lifting/working out on a more regular basis.  I was willing to forgo everything else, and my focus on that one area helped me physically get stronger and mentally feel better.
  2. Stop tinkering and just be consistent– This connects to number 1.  Even when you’re focused on something, it’s so easy to feel you have to constantly optimize.  The issue is that all the effort spent constantly trying to optimize is effort you don’t spend executing.  I had to learn to stop tinkering, so I could go execute.  
  3. People and vibes matter, so surround yourself with good ones– It’s amazing what the right people and energy can do.  I’m so blessed to be surrounded by some incredible leaders and colleagues right now  There is no fear here, just excitement to explore and shape a new future.  This is my fuel.  I’m soaking it in and using it to propel myself forward.

The challenge: Will you set aside the time to reflect?  What lessons will ring true for you?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

My Q2 Quarterly Review

  • Rebuild (Q1B+, Q2A)- This is my word/theme for the year.  I wanted to make repairs AND extensive changes.  I’m giving myself an A for Q2.  I built up some positive momentum in Q1 and have continued to capitalize on that.  Hopefully, a lot of these things will become engrained as habits.
  • Mental Health (Q1A, Q2A)- The goal is to feel like I’m in a good, strong, solid mental state.  I’m feeling great.  I’ve focused in on a few key things that are helping me improve all aspects of my life.  There’s a lot to love and celebrate in life right now, and I’m making sure I take the time to celebrate.
  • Physical Health (Q1B-, Q2B+)- The goal is to build strength, aiming for increasing strength by around 15%.  I might have to adjust my strength goals, because I had a bit of a leg injury that will sideline me from heavy lifts for awhile.  However, I’ve been more consistent than I have been in YEARS and I’m feeling the positive results.  I’ve completed 2 obstacles course races and have a strong lineup of future races!
  • Family (Q1B+, Q2A-)– My son is 11 and my daughter is now 13.  There are A LOT of big emotions every day.  I’m proud of how well my wife and I are handling those things.  It’s hard to give space to a dragon as it breathes fire, but there is strength in knowing you can stand in the fire and not get burned.  The real strength is in walking through the fire to give the dragon a hug.  I’m getting better at that each day. 
  • Career (Q1B+, Q2 A+)- The goal is to feel like I’m delivering magic.  If this isn’t the best quarter I’ve had at work in a while, it’s definitely been one of the most enjoyable.  I told my boss the other day that I’m actively trying to dial my energy down a few notches because I got so much swagger right now it could hurt someone. Lol.  In this quarter I watched things that had been over a year in the making come to life and become successful in such a short time frame.  That was awesome to experience.  The crucial thing is that it’s not just that I’m delivering magic as an individual.  It’s that I’m so blessed to be working with different crews who believe in and are all delivering the impossible right now.  That kind of stuff fills my bucket.  I need to keep surrounding myself with these people and prioritizing what matters most.
  • Financial (Q1B, Q2B)- The goal is to ensure we are saving/investing money in the right way.  I think I’m doing a bit better than Q1, but not better enough to warrant a higher grade.  I think that’s okay.  We are enjoying life right now.

Appreciating the Beauty in Different Types of Flowers (6-18-25)

This will be the last in the series inspired by my wife’s garden.  We are going wrap everything up with a final reflection on appreciating the beauty in different types of flowers. 

Here are some more close up shots of some of the flowers that my wife is growing in her garden or in a nearby pot.  Each of these flowers are beautiful, and all of them are beautiful for different reasons.  There are some I love because of their bright colors.  There are some I love because of the patterns on their petals.  I like marigolds, because they look like a lion that is blooming.  Every flower possesses beauty because of its own unique traits.  I wouldn’t ever want the space petunias to be just like the marigolds, because that would rob me of a chance to see something uniquely wonderful.

Let’s make some connections.  Like the flowers, we are all different.  Like the flowers, we are all beautiful humans.  Maybe, we are beautiful for our bright and bold energy.  Maybe, we are beautiful for soft and thoughtful demeanor.   Maybe, we are beautiful because of the unique patterns on our petals that tell a story.  Whatever it is, I hope you are proud of the things that make you beautiful.

The challenge: Will you celebrate the beauty within yourself?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Strawberries, Flowers, and Appreciating Beauty (6-11-25)

Last week was about gardening, intentional collaboration, and decision rights.  This week is about strawberries, flowers, and appreciating beauty.

The other day my wife said, “Whoa! You need to check this out!”  Her first strawberry had emerged, and it looked incredible.  On the flower side, Cam helped choose which flowers would fill the garden and the surrounding pots.  He chose certain flowers he calls “space petunias” because of how awesome they look.  I would not have appreciated the beauty of these moments and these plants, if it hadn’t been for the nudges from my wife and Cam.  My life is better, because I’ve taken the time to see such things.

Let’s make some connections.  When is the last time you paused to appreciate the beauty of something?  Maybe it’s a flower.  Maybe, it’s a sunrise.  Maybe it’s the way a cat curls up for a nap.  Maybe it’s a moment of peace as you sit on your back patio.  Maybe it’s the laughter from you and a friend.  Maybe it’s a guitar solo from a song.  Seriously, when is the last time you paused and took in the beauty of something?  Chances are it wasn’t recent enough.

The challenge: Will you pause to see the beauty around you?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Designing a Garden, Decision Making Rights, and Intentional Collaboration (6-4-25)

Last week was about bags of rock and not assuming you’re a burden.  This week is about decision making rights and intentional collaboration.

Technically, it is my wife’s garden.  However, she did invite us all to collaborate in certain ways.  She was very clear that she alone was going to decide how to design the space, which included creating the paths, setting up the rock, and deciding which structures go where.  Outside of the creating the space, she invited us in to help populate the space.  We had the opportunity to choose flowers, vegetables, colors, and other potential decorations.  My contribution is this cool cat statue that hangs out in the corner 😉

Let’s connect this to decision making rights and intentional collaboration.  Sometimes, when people think of collaboration, they assume this means that everyone has an equal part throughout every step of the decision-making process.  Have you ever experienced this on a project?  I have, A LOT.  I’d argue that our culture of consensus leads to this as well.  Approaching problems in a manner where there has to be 100% consensus is incredibly inefficient and slow.  The fact is that not everyone has equal decision rights in any given situation.  The fact is that everyone’s viewpoint and feedback should not be equal in every situation. 

Notice what my wife did in our story this week.  She was crystal clear that she was the decision maker on the garden design.  This clarity let the kids and I know not to spend any time there.  My wife was also very clear on where she wanted our input.  As a result, we could focus our time and efforts in that area.  While my kids and I may not have weighed in on every decision, we were still able to contribute in meaningful ways.  We are still proud of our contributions.

The challenge: Will you take the time to outline who has the true decision making rights?  Will you take the time to outline roles and responsibilities when you begin collaborating?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

Bags of Rock and Not Assuming You’re a Burden (5-28-25)

Last week was about my wife’s garden and the effort it took to create it.  This week is about bags of rock and not assuming you’re a burden.

When my wife designed the garden, she decided that she wanted to put in some river rock.  A few weeks ago, we went to Lowe’s and got several bags.  When we got home, I unloaded the rock and my wife started placing it in the garden.  Eventually, she saw that we would need more for tomorrow.  She had been working hard all day, so she had no interest in leaving the house. #can’tblameher

I offered to go to the store to get more.  She said I didn’t have to.  We went back and forth for a bit.  Ultimately, she felt like she was being a burden and forcing me to go to the store.  She figured since she didn’t want to leave the house I felt the same way.  Meanwhile, getting the rock wasn’t a big deal for me.  In fact, I viewed carrying the rock as a good workout for the day.  I also knew how much joy the garden would bring to her and the rest of the family.  Ultimately, I got the stuff, and she appreciated it.

Let’s make some connections.  Did my wife’s story sound familiar to you?  Have you ever felt guilty or been overly concerned that someone was going too far out of their way to help?  I know I have.  It’s easy to get conditioned into believing that we shouldn’t ask for or accept help.  It’s easy to feel like we are a burden to folks if they do help us.  The truth is 99% of the time this isn’t the case.  99% of the time that person is helping because they care about you and want to.  Plus, who is to say that they even view the ask or the situation a big deal in the first place?

The challenge: Will you embrace that you are not a burden?

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry

A Finished Garden and What it Took to Get There (5-21-25)

This week we are going to start a series inspired by some work we’ve done around the house.  We will start by reflecting on a finished garden and what it took to get there.

The picture on the right is how our garden in the backyard looks.  My wife did all of this.  Isn’t she awesome?  There are walking paths, mosaic stones, flores, a rainbow fence, and other vegetables.  Hanging out on my back patio and looking at this makes me so happy.

Here’s the thing though.  It didn’t start out looking like that.  Now look at the other picture.  It started with just a bunch of dirt.  To get it to where it is now my wife had to put in a lot of work.  She sketched out designs for the garden, purchased the materials, and pulled it all together.  It took weeks of working to get to the end result.

Let’s connect dots. Every day we see images of the final beautiful product.  It’s easy to become obsessed with this finished product and to lose perspective on everything it took to get there.  That success didn’t happen overnight.  It was months and years of hard work. 

The challenge: How can we appreciate the beauty AND the work it took to get there?

Bonus thought- We can be beautiful AND be works in progress at the same time.  Life is just a series of transitions.  Much like the plants in my wife’s garden, sometimes we are blooming and sometimes we are growing and working our way through the dirt.

Have a jolly good day,

Andrew Embry