
Last week was all about being aware of your biases, and then taking action. This week is also about taking action, but in a different context. This week’s entry is inspired by a conversation I had with a colleague.
Imagine for a moment that you are standing in the middle of an intersection at night and you need to pick which road you would feel the safest traveling on. You have 4 different directions you can take. To the north is pure darkness. You can’t even see a road. To the east there are street lamps, and sometimes they flicker on for a few seconds before the road goes dark again. To the south the street lights are all on, so you can see pretty well. To the west all of the street lights are on and you see a friend of yours who is calling you saying, “Come on. We’ll walk there together.” Which one do you choose?
You’re probably wondering what this has to do with anything. What if in the above situation you weren’t choosing a road, but you were choosing which person you would be willing to have a conversation with about diversity and inclusion topics? To the north the dark street is the person who seals off their personal self at work. To the east the flickering lamps are the people who show that they might be open, but they don’t give you enough to know for sure. To the south the well-lit street is the person who brings themselves to work and you are sure that it would be safe to have this conversation with them. To the west, the well-lit street with the friend is the individual who takes it a step further and puts in the effort to set aside time for them to have conversations with you. Which do you choose?
Recently I had a conversation with a colleague and he talked about how one of the biggest barriers to advancing in the realm of diversity and inclusion is that we don’t talk enough about these concepts with each other. We often don’t talk about these concepts, because we aren’t sure who is open to having the conversation and when we can have the conversation during the course of our regular work day. We might have all of this stuff on our minds, but bringing it up in the midst of other business meetings and during the rush of our day would feel out of place and not give the topics the time and attention they require. If we want this to change we need to find a way to create opportunities to have these conversations and we need to do this by making it easier for people to walk toward us and with us. If we are going to be open to having these conversations we need to be able to demonstrate this through our words and our actions.
Which path are you in the analogy? I would hope that people would see me as the south path. I hope that I’m giving all of the signals that tell people I’m open. At the same time, I recognize that I need to do better. I need to put in the work to be the welcoming west path. I can make the time to talk with people about these concepts to learn more and take more action to make things better. The challenge- How are you making yourself easier to walk toward?
Have a jolly good day,
Andrew Embry








